We all have a Mental Block

Our intellect, our rational mind, is an information block. It grasps information and holds on. That way it never gets to our heart – our real life center.

Our mind is power hungry and battles with heart and spirit for control. It gets puffed up with knowledge – information in words. There is pride in what we know.

We try to control our life from our mind. By doing so we interfere with the graceful person we could be if mind, heart and spirit were coordinated with one another.

As Jesus told us our heart is the center of action and source of our attitudes including sinful ones. Did Jesus give us philosophy and theology and ethics to heal our heart and control our behavior? No.

He spoke to us with pictures and parables more than lectures. He thus spoke the language of the heart – story. And his life and sacrificial death is another gift of a dramatic life story that touches our hearts.

Education is not effective in changing cultural patterns, family patterns or personality patterns. Why then do we act as if it does?  Why do we cling to the belief  that it does? This delusion is our mental block.

For the mind has little or know authority to change the heart. Education does not reprogram long term attitudes and associated behaviour. Yet we continue to act as though it does. And we keep getting the same result – no change or, at best, temporary change.

If you want to integrate a great insight into your life, teach someone else. That drops it into the heart. One of the core insights of AA is that you stay sober when you help someone else stay sober. The ’12 Step’ is essential to the program.

Try this. As soon as you learn a great idea, teach it to someone else. Be generous with your ideas and sow them wildly about. You will reap deeper insights and deeper integration of them into your life.

Riddle: How is it that by letting go of what we grasp we come to grasp it more firmly?

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About George Hartwell. Is he too religious?

My wife was asked if my counselling/psychotherapy was too religious. She answered like this.
“George says thanks for your query.
He is officially a counsellor or therapist by label and belongs to the OACCPP ( Association of Counsellors Psychotherapists etc etc). So he does everything a psychotherapist does, has a Masters in Clinical psychology, but just recently applied to be officially called Psychotherapist.
He qualifies for the label given his experience and education. (30 years plus) It is just one of those things he never thought of getting the label for, given his work was never dependent on it.
He is a Christian, however he does both secular and Christian therapy if the client wants it. Normally, he sticks with common counselling practices no matter the religious background, unless someone requests ” prayer therapy” or has a unique request of a spiritual nature.
He personally, is open to more liberal practices and supports gay marriage, multi belief stances, and has many non Christian friends and associates.
He does not particularly “like” the church as it has been and prefers to attend a Christian church that is non- fundamentalist and open to LGBTQ communities. He thinks Jesus is fine, but the church ( as a whole, not a particular church in general) is a mess.
in other words. He holds some moderate conservative views, but would not consider him self either left or right. Most of his therapy is focused on root issues, resolving couple issues and sorting through patterns to find out how to solve life long issues. All in all, he only goes with a client’s goals, and lets the client determine the vibe and he works with those goals.
On a personal note, I find him to be a fantastic listener, a good abstract problem solver, well boundaried, playful and he prefers blunt people over proprietary and politeness.’

What are life strategies to reduce general anxiety?

Life strategies to reduce general anxiety

George Hartwell M.Sc. Christian Anxiety Therapist

  1. Get enough sleep – How much? People say eight hours, but it’s probably more like 7–9. The point is, sleep enough. General anxiety can result from sleep deprivation. Your brain needs time to recover. Take 90 minutes to wind down without tv or other screens. Turn off bright white lights and use dim lighting avoiding blue light. Listen to music. Soak in a bath. Go for a walk. Take some melatonin or sleep-enhancing tea. Do not have cell phones or charging of devices near your bed. Black out all lights.
  2. Calming activities – Once you get enough “hard rest” get some “soft rest” too. Your brain needs time to just calm down and chill out. Relax and listen to soaking praise music. Be still and repeat a calming Bible verse. Learn to tune out what you don’t need to spend attention on (newscasts and upsetting news or dramatic stories,) Do prayer walks. Enjoy a nature setting: a park, greenhouse, garden of place by the water.
  3. Exercise, no, really – Using the body to work out stress is a COMPLETE necessity. Those who experience physical stress need to work out the buildup of stress related chemicals in the body and exercise is the way to do it. Walking, swimming, running, lifting weights pushes stress related chemicals out of the muscles and joints, and incites the body to clean itself out. Spend time doing this each day. Don’t do nothing, do some pushups or air squats at least. Increase the time spent in walking everyday until you have 30 minutes per day. Do not spend over an hour in sitting. Take little breaks.
  4. Have a plan, organize your time – Studies show that having a plan in hand reduces feelings of anxiety. There’s expectation, and a comfort in knowing when to expect what.
  5. Practice saying “no” and being okay – Don’t feel the need to do everything. Understand your core values and know when you say “no” to something it’s fine and you’re alright. Step away from being everyone’s helper, rescuer, go to person.

Christian Psychotherapy and counselling for Anxiety Issues.

by George Hartwell M.Sc. – a professional therapist with:

  • Masters degree in community psychology
  • over 40 years of clinical experience
  • Conveniently located near west end Toronto and South East Mississauga
  • flexible appointment times
  • phone sessions for those at a distance.

What Anxiety feels like:

Anxiety is distress. It’s disquiet.

It feels like I am in danger and the threat is everywhere.

It feels like sleep is essential to my survival but I can’t. I can’t sleep. If only I could sleep.

Anxiety feels like whatever is holding me together – the string that runs through all of me – has been strung too tight.

How do I overcome my chronic anxiety disorder?

How do I overcome my chronic anxiety disorder?1. CORE BELIEFSYou may have a strong core-belief of “I AM NOT NORMAL”, “I AM NOT GOOD ENOUGH”.  You are stuck in your belief system since your childhood. By now your core beliefs are unconscious.

2. LIST: Keep track of the things going right in your life. What are you grateful for?  Sometimes when we are caught up in our “story”, we just forget everything else, like horse with blinders on we look at whats “right ahead” (in your case, whats going wrong!!!!)

3. Recreation: What activity gets you out of your head? Singing in the shower? Dancing? Painting? Going for a walk? Running? Drawing? Writing? Reading? How do you take care of yourself? Get a break from worry thoughts by making a list of alternative activities that allow you to break out of your train of thought.

4. THERAPY:You will need some extra help,in identifying core beliefs and getting rid of them.  Professional therapists are becoming more and more effective in dealing quickly and permanently with core beliefs that are at the root of anxiety issues.